Saturday, March 16, 2019 @ 9:47 AM

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Ive read alot of cheating cases here and terlalu ramai wives yang menggila bila dapat tau that their husbands berzina dengan perempuan lain. Ada yang suami belum cheat pon, dia da suspect macam2 sampai nak track suami, nak hack or check his phone. Why do you want to hurt yourself like that?

Yang bila da caught suami tu cheat, serang suami, ada yang salahkan scandal mati-matian, ada yang be super depressed and start fikir nak bunuh diri. Kenapa tak fikir anak2? Cuma husband je yang penting? How about the kid yang you gave birth to?

Perasaan menggila ni usually happens sebab isteri letak happiness bulat2 pada suami. Lepas jadi SAHM or even some working mums, they lost their identity as a person and terlalu focus on making everyone else happy except herself. She was too busy being a wife and a mum sampai that became her sole life purpose. She lost her hobbies, she stopped having friends and she became so busy urus rumah, she lost herself. Rumah nak kena tip top bersih, anak2 nak kena be in their best behavior, and suami nak kena bagus. But they forgot that semua orang ada takdir diorang masing2.

No matter how good you didik anak2, maybe they will jadi anak2 yang biadab. No matter how good ilmu agama you gave them, maybe they akan berzina and get pregnant. No matter how tip top you layan the husband, mungkin he will berzina kat luar. You dont have control over anything. The more scared you are of outside influence, the more you akan diuji that way. So do your best, then berserah. Tawakal. Let Allah SWT jaga urusan kita kat dunia ni. Mintak Allah jangan uji kita berat2.

In life, we are all going to mess up. Tak kira lelaki ke perempuan and we are going to make alot of blunders. But never put your happiness 100% atas diri orang lain. Lepas kawin, we dont own that person. You are still you. And he is still him. Both of you come together untuk live together. You cant change each other but you can motivate each other to be a better person.

Do you really need to track and check his phone? Even if your hati rasa super tak sedap, let him be. And know in your heart that, he is a grown ass man, kalau dia main gila, dia dosa. Why should you worry about his sins. Worry about yourself. Selagi dia belum terantuk, perhatikan his game. And plan your own game. Be free of worries and you fix your relationship dengan Allah SWT. Once your relationship dengan Allah SWT is good, dengan sendirinya, hubungan dengan manusia akan terjaga. And bila things like this surfaced, Allah akan bagi kita kekuatan to face it with a brave heart and a clear mind. We will know what to do.

Lepas tau that he berzina dengan perempuan lain, you need to fikir what is your next step. Do you want to leave the marriage or stay. If you want to forgive, be prepared that he is going to do this again sebab he knows that you are going to forgive him again. He knows the right words to make you terima dia. Sini sedap, sana pon sedap.

And if you decide to leave, work on being a better person. Take care of your mental and physical health. Exercise and be happy. Go find a job, enroll in classes, pick up a hobby. Masuk class memperhalusi solat and mengaji. Fix yourself. Buat apa you want to be suicidal for a jerk yang sleep and menggatal around? He dont deserve your tears. Dont waste your precious tears on these kinda men, sebab he dont care. The moment dia sentuh wanita lain, he dont care about you.

Easier said than done. But we ladies need to learn to be strong. We need to be financially independant so these penyangaks yang pijak semut tak mati, will not take advantage of us. They will think twice sebelum cheat on us. Some ladies boleh terima balik lelaki yang da "masuk" perempuan lain. But most ladies jijik and geli nak terima balik. That is one of the biggest sin dalam Islam. He is as good as dead kalau ikut hukum.

Dont cry anymore. Dont beg for his love. Dont beg for his attention. If he doesnt want you anymore, leave. You cannot force someone to love you. You cannot get his love back by using the kids. Once hati dia da tutup for you, its over. You need to learn to move on. You need to find your happiness by getting to know yourself all over again and learn to be happy.

Memang its embarrasing to hold a title "janda". But nowadays, most of the time is suami yang buat hal. Our men is so low quality these days in terms of akhlak and iman. So why should you be ashamed? The most important thing is we dont do that to others. Be careful bila berkenalan dengan any guys. Check and recheck that dia bukan suami orang. Even if dia kata dia dalam process nak bercerai, please run far far away. Dont trust lelaki sembarangan. And jaga diri. Jangan senang sangat percaya and in the end, sampai terlanjur. Theres no such thing as terlanjur dalam Islam. That is zina. And zina is dosa besar. Please malu dengan Allah. Jangan jadi wanita tak malu, bila orang rampas suami kita, kita pulak pergi rampas suami orang lain. That is so low class and disgusting.

Be strong and jaga hubungan dengan Allah. Dont ever think of killing yourself just because suami ada perempuan lain. Why do you stay and hurt yourself thinking that you kena tahan all this bullshit and that you dont deserve better? Once dia da berzina berkali2 dengan wanita lain, he is not fit to be called a husband. Husband tu maknanya seorang lelaki yang berjanji to setia pada seorang wanita dalam ikatan perkahwinan. If dia langgar perjanjian tu, means dia tak hormat you as a wife. Nak berzina ni nak kena ada planning. Dari berkenalan hehe hoho, ke mesra jumpa sekali dua, to bebual lucah, to plan next meet up, book a room and berzina. It doesnt happen overnight. So its not ter. Its a planned thing.

You deserve to be happy. You will find love again. Kalau bukan love dari seorang lelaki, mungkin love yang lebih agung and mulia dari cinta manusia. You will get through this pain. Let him go and be happy. Allah will fix your broken heart if you learn to trust and put your full faith in Him.